One of the hardest things for a survivor is to let go of the past, who we were. Not all who have had a brain injury totally lose who they are but many do, and I am one of those. Though i am just over 4 years into this journey there are many things I can not accept but I am working on it.

There are so many great things about this new me, I must now learn to apply that into living again for myself. I have so much to offer but I must learn balance and have some fun too. There is so much I want to accomplish but well structured plan is what I need to develop. I have so much love inside of me needing to share, but i must find the one I am will to give it to. In most cases we have became more incredible but we must learn how to access this new us.

We have to believe we are worth it and that takes time and work. The hating who I have become has lessened as time has past. Does not mean I don't go to that dark place now and again pondering that big why. There might now be no why just a what, what am I going to do with it (with me).

Be kind to yourselves this holiday season, and remember you are worth it and find those who you can give that of yourself which is priceless our essence our caring and love life is meant to live and those things are life, find your reason to live and build a plan a map of such showing and reminding you where you need and want to go.

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Comment by Hope on December 23, 2010 at 8:55am
i get i need to like the new me, but what about the old me where is it who is it what is it it is so over whelming
Comment by Shonti Ganguli on December 20, 2010 at 6:28pm

The "new" me is always longing for the "old" me.  But realizing that it the "new" me (have had this new me for now over half my life time) is what I have to live with.  Have to learn to live with this "new" me and make what improvements upon it I can.  It's a life time job.  But someone's got to do it and in this instance that someone is "me".

Comment by Too Cautious on December 17, 2010 at 9:43pm

The struggle of competing with who I am with what I do as a person/wife/mother VS who I was and what I could do as a person/wife/mother IS definitely a challenge. It still comes and goes and I have become more "aware" of when it happens and more capable of "letting go" or accepting the changes/differences. The major improvement is trying to stay alive instead of trying to die as I figured I should have in the accident.

Comment by Carol on December 15, 2010 at 10:45am

I so like this, the one thing I keep looking for is some of the old me where the hell did it go.  I guess with time we forget and embrace the new or at least that is the natural order of things.  May everyone find their reason during this season )

Comment by Kimmy on December 15, 2010 at 10:11am

we need to keep building ourselves up to our self if we can like who we are no one else can either

Comment by Shonti Ganguli on December 13, 2010 at 7:58pm
Finding a meaningful purpose with our lives can be difficult after tbi. Beyond accepting our new limitations we also need to continue to move forward and grow. Allowing ourselves to discover purposes for lives.
Comment by Mary B on December 13, 2010 at 6:54am

life is funny and we need to learn to accept ourselves as hard as it can be life starts there

Comment by Randy on December 12, 2010 at 6:35pm

we better like us, all is lost when we cannot find hope in ourselve, hope begins with us

Comment by Joan M on December 12, 2010 at 6:02pm

if we can not like our self then who else can

Comment by James McNeill on December 12, 2010 at 2:15pm

great words of insight, you truly know how to put things into words that we can get, i so get this yet struggle too. glad to have ran into you on my voyage to sanity )

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