Need some advice with a relationship

[Douglas Dunning]

My story about getting here is just about like everyone elses

However my situation has greatly improved after leaving NC and calling my mother for help.

In st peters burg Florida the health department has been very good to me in getting a diagnosis and with treatment By sending me to a nurologist and a urologist .

I am on a lot of medication at the moment but have gotten An MRI and an EEG not to mention some needed surgery and a diagnosis that confirmed my self diagnosis for a TBI and PTSD .

Any way the advice that I am seeking is about my estranged wife. there was communication right up till I left NC.(1/1/2012)

However I had no choice but to come to Florida since the person that was giving me a place to live asked me to leave there. and I have been unable to write or call her since.

all my email addresses and phone numbers were locked up in this computer until yesterday 4/10/2012.

the reason for us separating was the monster inside that came out one time too many and with a seriously vicious manner....

There was no  physical confrontation just my big stupid mouth and threats of violence towards myself.  it should suffice to say that it was enough for two people that were completely in love prior to my accident .

we split  because I dident know that there was something wrong with me . since I was self medicating. It wasnt till I had to sober up that I discovered my trouble.

since then there is no alcohol with me and a diagnosis. not to mention some psychological assistance that I will be pursuing shortly.

However I do realize that that does not change the past. I am just hoping that with this diagnosis that she might see things in a different light .... she loves me of this I am sure

I just dont want to say the wrong things when i contact her. I hope that she might forgive more readily. I dont even know where to begin.

she was aware that I was seeking medical help but was just banging my head on the wall where I was. I did send her a valentine card and a small note hoping she would write back. but have not heard from her.

any suggestions please. I am sure she has no Idea of how TBI affects people

I do love my wife and miss her greatly

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[BARB GEORGE]

Can you get your support people to help you with the contact?  That might help smooth the edges.  Also, it would show her that you ARE in a recovery mode.  It will probably take time.  

There is a LOSS for both sides.  It takes a lot of time for both the survivor and those around them to find their pathway... and that path curves around quite a bit.  And it can be a bumpy path.  It is hard to be patient.  

Good for YOU for getting your health in process!!!! YAY for YOU!  And for your FUTURE. 

[Debi]

Doug:

I think we can all relate in how TBI has affected our loved ones. My best advice would be to maybe email her some links to get more information on TBI and what it is and how to best deal with it. I think if she reads some of the side effects, she will soon realize that that wasn't you who was reacting to her. My advice would be to be patient and keep lines of communication open with her. If you would like to talk, you can get a hold of me. Blessings....

Debi