I'm male. 32. TBI from childhood and it still affects me alot.
I have maturity issues/i'm childlike and speech troubles too
and Auditory processing and trouble understanding people when they talk to me. Memory issues too.
Anyways, i've never had a Girlfriend, not even female friends. i just had some temporary (week, or few weeks)foreign female friends just cause i talked to them in bus stops.. about 3 in my life time. Reason for this is i talked to the shy/quiet foreign girls from asia and over there there is more acceptance of shy/quiet. than here in America.
So , because i'm quiet and not much talk and i'm slow too...those people still accept me and my childlike laugh and talk and jokes.I'm not saying all asians accpet me, but there has been many more . even online i have like 40 female friends and they accept my child behavior.
These are things the typical women my age(career college educated) think is stupid and childish and they just think i'm a loser. So, it doesn't seem like it's possible for me to have a girlfriend or love ever. So i'm sad.
Everytime i go out in the city and i see attractive women, my heart pounds but then i have to say to my self "Whatever. i'll never have those girls as gf.. so what's the point" and i turn my head away to not look at them or i look down.
But realistically, i really dont have a chance.
Some people with TBI who recover, speak wel and adult like but I'm not that way. So those people can get GFs and love but it doesn't seem i will ever be able to have that.
Even, in going out.. most people out there are the typical normal non TBI women and they want playboys or smart types etc. They want good communicators and i'm not that.
And many women my age want mature guys.
So it's not very posible to get a normal/non tbi woman. So do i have to look for a TBI girlfriend? how would i do that?
Also I read dating books etc. and those things just don't apply to me. Cause it just doesn't work for me. For example they say to go to places and talk to women. But those women expect a 32 year old guy to be mature and adult-like, . And then i talk and i'm stuck and can't think because i have memory problems. They just think i'm stupid. and don't take me seriously. I also have nothing in my brain for long pauses and in my case, i just have child like simple topics and Women expect gossip and complex conversations which i never do because it's not in me.
Anyways, Love/GF for a TBI person is difficult. Well it is for me and it has been always, 32 years with nothing. What do i have to do?
People say "just talk". Well i've been going to many places now: TBI support group, and i go to some other meetings(cause the therapist told me to try things) and i talk to the women with my simple language but they're not interested. Some may feel sorry for me, for example the volunteer college students in the TBI supoprt group and they're nice and kind to me but that's cause they know i have tbi,, But they're not really interested in having a love relationship with me OR a true friendship
Thanks for reading