Friends

[David Reaves]

I really wish I could have my own friends Ive always tried to have friends but always have issues with getting along or finding things in common my only friends I have are through my wife which are her family because my family sucks they have never understood me I feel that her family doesnt really understand me but they atleast accept me probably because im with there daughter but how thankful I am to have my wife who truly understands me and loves me for who I am.

When I think about getting friends the only friends I can think about having are girls because they are the ones I feel most comfortable with, even though I would like to have friends that are guys.

I see on tv and stuff guys being best friends that have known each other for ever and have trust I guess that is my problem I can never trust somone with the things that mean the most to me because im afraid someone is going to take what I have.

I would like to find soeone who has these same issues after having a brain injury as a child ive found people who say they understand but I know they are just trying to be nice

 

[Kerry Mischka]

Hi David-  Unfortunately I am also a female, but interestingly enough, I usually only have male friends.  For some strange reason, I really do understand what you are saying.  Thank God for the wife that you do have.  She sounds like an absolute angel.  I am always on here looking for people that I can befriend as I know they truly "get it"!!!!!!!!!!!  However, since none of us can see eachother we are going by faith that we are a male or a female.  So, like you, I have no one that I can trust (except of course my Lord and  Savior Jesus Christ a.k.a.  God) either.  Human beings are ALWAYS going to let us down, so I choose to put my faith and hope in Him.  You may believe different than I do and that is okay, but all I know for sure is that by "man's standards" I was dead, but I still here....No one will ever change the plan that the Lord has for my life no matter how depressed I may get or frustrated.  This is not an easy calling, but it is the hand that we have all been dealt.  We are all dealing with it the best we can.  Please go on www.graceconnectionchurch.org and read about my Pastors daughter Hannah....the Lord took her home in September as she got hurt.  All the information is on the website if you are interested and know what a gift our lives are. That includes you....MY FRIEND!!!!!!

[tanya c]

Supporting A.B.I. (Acquired Brain Injury) on facebook is a great group.  There are male members who have expressed the same as you, just make a request to TBI SUE to jpoin as it is a private group

[John Donne]

I'm 32 had brain injury as child. I have never had real life friends either. however lately, i am going to a support group for TBI survivors and ther'es nice peopel there. we are like friends.

yeah, just like you, i dont have any of those Friendsships that you see in tv or in real life. But at least i can share some time with some nice people who are like me. You don't have a TBI support group in your town?

The other thing you can do, if you're generally ok and can move or walk, is go to a recre ation center and ask them if there are things you can join to meet people.

That's the idea i had today and i called,and i told her i have tbi so i'm not like a typical guy in their 30s and asked if ther'es something i can join were i can meet people for friendship or to meet girls hehehe.  and

but then theey were really nice and said yes there's stuff i can join, but then they transferred me and the lady wasn't there. but later she will call me.

[BARB GEORGE]

I think we all have to remember that to have a friend, you have to BE a friend... It is so hard sometimes, for me to really listen to others.  I really have to work at it.  Since I don't remember a lot of things, that makes it seem as though I am not listening well.  

While I have old friends from school or work, many don't really TRULY understand me now.  So, I try to be caring, to people I meet.  It works sometimes.  

The whole thing about the TV people, is that it is all a script, folks.  Those people are not REAL.  It is like a woman reading only romance books or only watching the soaps--it isn't real.  We are all flawed.  We are human.  We screw up, but then we fix it, and then we may stumble again.  I have 'more' friends than my husband.  He is very difficult to get to know--doesn't really 'visit' well.  But he also does have a core group of folks from high school (about 4 now, as some are gone).  

I think it is hard for all people.  They just don't want to be as honest as you have been.  I think THAT is a really cool part of your personality!